1. LOVE vs. FEAR. Each moment, each challenge, each person is an opportunity to discover more about ourselves and the world around us.
2. ACCEPTANCE vs. RESISTANCE. Accept what has happened instead of resisting the situation. Ask yourself: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better?Focus on the positive rather than on the negative.
3. FORGIVENESS vs. UNFORGIVENESS. It’s not healthy to hold on to anger. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha
4. TRUST vs. DOUBT. Beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, and because of this, we need to make sure to treat everybody with love, dignity and respect. These are the great men that Mark Twain was talking about: “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”Mark Twain
5. MEANING vs. AMBITION. Understand that “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life” like Wayne Dyer puts it, and care more about living a life full of meaning rather than, what in our modern society we would call, living a successful life.
6. PRAISING vs. CRITICIZING. Don’t criticize the absence of the behavior you want to reinforce, but rather, every time the behavior is present, even if it’s not that often, know that by praising the person and the behavior, they will actually reinforce the positive behavior.
When a parent wants to make sure that his 7 years old boy will learn to always put the toys back in the box after he’s done playing with them, he will make sure not to focus on the many times the child won’t do it, criticizing him and his behavior, but rather, every time the little boy does put the toys back, the parent will praise him and his behavior and that is exactly how he will reinforce the positive behavior, and in the end getting the wanted results.
7. CHALLENGES vs. PROBLEMS. See PROBLEMS as CHALLENGES, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, expressing gratitude for them, and understanding this will make us grow.
8. SELFLESSNESS vs. SELFISHNESS. Do what you do not for yourself, but for the good of others, making sure that you bring meaning, empowerment and happiness in the lives of many.
9. ABUNDANCE vs. LACK/POVERTY. They have an abundant mindset living a balanced life.
10. DREAMING BIG vs. BEING REALISTIC. Love and dare to dream big; always listen to your heart and intuition.
11. KINDNESS vs. CRUELTY. Be kind to yourself and others; understand the power of self love, self forgiveness and self acceptance.
12. GRATITUDE vs. INGRATITUDE. Express gratitude for the simple gifts life bestows upon us instead of complaining about all that we don’t have.
13. PRESENCE/ ENGAGEMENT vs. DISENGAGEMENT. Live in the present moment, appreciating what you have and where you are, while still having big dreams about the future.
14. POSITIVITY vs. NEGATIVITY. Self-explanatory.
15. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY vs. BLAMING. Take full ownership over your lives and rarely use excuses. The moment you choose to blame outside forces, you are in fact giving all your power away.